2019 New Year's Resolutions

Hey! It’s been a while. Happy new year!

I’ve never made this blog a thing I forced myself to do. When I have something to write about, I write about it. Sometimes this results in a flurry of posts in quick succession, other times I go months without writing. I’m not sure if that will change in 2019, but I thought I’d share some other resolutions of mine, and see if you guys have anything similar on your lists.

Work out more. Duh. With the exception of my dad and brothers, pretty much everyone I know wishes they worked out more. Here’s hoping!

Cook more. I get takeout a lot because I am 21 and always tired and not passionate about cooking. But I do know how to make a few things, pretty well actually, so I’m gonna try to make those things and maybe learn how to make some more things, because cooking is an act of self-care - physically, emotionally, and financially. Plus it’ll make me feel more like a grown-up, which is often a plus.

Drink more water. I actually drink a lot of water most days but sometimes I forget. In 2019, no more dehydration headaches! Do better!

More weekend outings with friends. This is kind of amorphous, but I want to do more Cute Weekend Things with my friends. In October, one of my best friends invited me to a pumpkin patch with some friends of hers I didn’t know yet and then we all went back to her house and ate dinner and watched old Disney movies (starting with Halloweentown, duh) and baked cookies and got drunker than we intended. It was one of the most fun days of my life and I want to do more stuff like that. Flea markets, old movie theaters, outdoor concerts, hip restaurants and coffee shops, that kinda thing. I’m so lucky to live in LA! I need to take more advantage of it!

Try some bars. As previously mentioned I am 21, somewhat newly 21 (September 10, a Virgo, obviously). I’ve been to a couple of bars, but I’m not really the going out type so I haven’t tried that many. I want to do some research and go to more spots and try to find a couple that I really like. I’ve always liked the idea of being a regular somewhere, and even if that’s hard to do in a city like LA, I would like to at least know the names of some bars and feel less lost when someone mentions one.

Go on hikes. Semi-related to the above, but I genuinely enjoy hiking and I rarely do it. In the summer when I’m at home, my dad will often take me when he’s not working or out of town, but during the school year I go a grand total of zero times, or one, if I’m feeling particularly adventurous. So this year I want to do more of that! I always dread going and then afterward I feel fantastic. Being outdoors makes me really happy (as long as I get to go home to indoor plumbing and a real bed afterward), and hiking is one of the only forms of exercise, besides yoga, that doesn’t severely hurt my joints (spinning? anything involving squats? PASS).

Spend more time outside. See above. But not just for exercise! I want to read and write outside as well. It’s about to be cold in LA (or at least cold-ish) but by late March whatever measly rain we normally get will have stopped and it’ll start heating up enough to sit on the grass and just freakin HANG. A lot of activities I do indoors could be moved outside, because I’m usually either reading or on my laptop. And my friends and I can also sometimes move our Gossiping Around Someone’s Kitchen Table to Gossiping On A Lawn Or Field I Guess.

Meditate. An obvious one. Every year I say I want to meditate, and every year I am the dumbest clown in clown college and I don’t even bother. This year! I will genuinely try!

Continue journaling. Kinda crushing it on that front. I journal almost every day! I want to keep doing that, even when it becomes a chore, I want to push through. I love having a record of my life, and in May I will have been at it for three years. So wild.

Continue getting a lot of sleep. Again, kinda killing it. I get 8 hours or more of sleep probably 95% of the time. I want to keep up this streak. It’s honestly not difficult, because I’m exhausted during the week and fall asleep by midnight, and on weekends, my compulsion to Stay Up Party Rage Forever has diminished significantly in the second half of college. Love aging.

Stand up for yourself more. There weren’t a ton of occasions where this came up, but I have a feeling that in 2019, for professional reasons, I will be in circumstances where I’ll have to stand my ground and it will be difficult. I want to be polite and respectful, but I don’t want to be pushed around. I’m determined to speak my mind when it matters, but also be good at picking my battles.

Be honest more. I wouldn’t say I lie frequently, but I definitely withhold information from people when I get scared or feel like it’s not “necessary” to tell them. I want to be less precious about walking on eggshells. Sort of related to the above, but I want to say what’s on my mind and ask for what I really want even if I might hear the word “no.” I want to keep fewer secrets and I want to stop constantly feeling like I’m biting my tongue. This is me, baby. Take me as I am. No fear!

Live in the moment more. I’m a big planner. It’s a tendency that has served me quite well in my life, but it’s also been sort of problematic sometimes. I look back at long swaths of time and realize I remember very little because I was so frantic about getting to The Next Thing. Even if I was enjoying myself, I was counting down until the good thing ended so I could get back to the proper business of my life, which I decided was being miserable all the time. Towards the end of 2018, I realized how freakin dumb that is, and that of course everything is temporary, but you should still soak up the sadness and happiness as it comes in equal measure. So I’m gonna really focus on that in 2019. It’ll be hard—I graduate in May, I’m traveling a lot this year, I’ve got a lot of professional opportunities on the horizon—and I know I’m gonna slip up and find myself staring at calendars and literally calculating how many minutes there are until The Next Thing. But I want to do it less. I CAN DO IT. So can you.

Practice Spanish. Kinda random but I used to be near-fluent in Spanish but it’s been like three and a half years since I spoke it with any regularity. I want to listen to Spanish podcasts and music, read Spanish news articles, and maybe sack up enough to practice with some friends of mine that I know speak it. I love traveling, and being fluent in Spanish would be a HUGE asset, of course. And one day I want to learn French too but let’s take this thing one day at a time okay?

Gossip less. I don’t gossip with everyone, but I’ve got a couple of friends who just love to throw down, and when I’m with them, I love it too. I want to do that less, and then maybe not at all. Even though we only talk about people who have genuinely done bad things, to us or to others, I still feel like dwelling on their indiscretions is a bad use of my time. I want to be more positive in general, and that means talking about people who make me happy and do good in the world. As far as the jerks, predators, and snakes…well, there’s that old adage that if you don’t have anything nice to say, you shouldn’t say anything at all. So maybe in 2019 I’ll just shut the hell up. Finally!

Whatever you’re planning for 2019, I hope it goes great for you. Oh, and if you want to check out the video I made about 2018 (I filmed one second almost every day), here ya go: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D06EJqajs-A